Philippines Brides

Love is lovelier, the second time around… or so the song says. What I am intrigued by is the large number of Kano’s (western men) who leave one relationship with a Filipina and immediately start to look for another Filipina to replace her. Given the situation is usually because the Filipina did the wrong thing (in these cases), I wonder why the rush to return to potentially more of the same?

I can say from my own experience that after you have been dumped, deserted, cheated on or simply walked away from there is a desire to immediately reassert your worth by finding someone to replace the one that left you. When it is the man doing the dumping he has usually found someone else already but the ‘victim’ or abandoned partner could be the man or the woman.

I know several men who found their dream Filipina had been playing them like a fiddle all along. Even before they met online, she had a Filipino boyfriend or Kano boyfriend or even a Filipino husband and children stashed away somewhere. Some of these women have gone all the way to marrying and migrating to the USA, maintaining the magic for several years until the Green Card arrives and then its goodbye sucker!

That situation is for another post but what I want to consider here is; why then do these men race around looking for Number 2, and usually at the same chatcam site or online intro site where they met the last diasaster? Wasn’t one heartbreaking expensive lesson enough?

I am the first to admit Filipinas are lovely, I married one and am still married to her. But the more I learn about her the more I realise she is little different to her western sisters once you get past the ‘Pinay’ veneer. More than being a Filipina, she is a woman, a female of our species. If you can’t get along with one of those of your own culture you will not magically find the key with one from a very different culture.

I think a lot of the appeal to many is that they mistake the love and loyalty as subservience. It is easier for older, less attractive western men to find younger, very attractive partners in the Philippines and a few other choice locations. But once you are married and living back home in Hardgraft Tennesee, it is little different to any other relationship.

I put it to the readers that a lot of the problem lies not with the scamming Filipina but with the insecure, perhaps somewhat dominating Kano. The rate of divorces, scams and such like has increased in recent years and a lot of that is down to developments in technology making it easier and faster for scammers to snare their victims. While perhaps in the past marriages to Filipinas tended to last longer than average, that is no longer as true and another part of the reason has to be the contemporary Filipina.

But that doesn’t take anything away from the issues the Kano male might have to deal with. Having your heart ripped from your chest and stood on in stilettos then immediately looking for another person with the same shoe size is not the most rational course of action, surely?

If you have been wronged and you do want another Filipina in your life, or if the last woman was some other nationality and now you look to Filipinas for whatever reasons… take your time. Time heals all wounds and let’s face it, you are not the best prospect if you are still rebounding from the last relationship. Give yourself time to get over the heartache and you will be all the better for it. Better able to make more rational, thought out choices and better for whoever is going to be lucky enough to snare you.

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